Victory is found in surrender

In the letter of James, we learn that temptation comes from being drawn by our own desires (James 1:14). In contrast, every good and perfect gift comes from God (James 1:17). We also learn that our fights with others originate from our own desires too (James 4:1). Next, we learn that following our desires or "friendship with the world" makes us adulterers and enemies of God (James 4:4). Like in the second chapter of the first epistle of John, we see a conflict between two different types of "love", the love of the world versus the love of the Father. (1 John 2:15-16).

Chapter thirteen of the first epistle to the Corinthians tells us how God's love differs from the love of the world. Notice how one of the characteristics of God's agape love is that it isn't self-seeking, it doesn't seek it's own way (1 Corinthians 13:5). You can know for sure that something doesn't come from God's agape love by whether or not it's self-seeking.

God's love isn't self-seeking, but self-denying, as seen in the giving of His Son to us (John 3:16). Also notice Jesus' self-denial when He prayed to the Father: "not My will, but Yours, be done." Luke 22:42. In the same context, He says: "Watch and pray, lest you enter into temptation. the spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak." Matthew 26:41

Victory over temptation is found in the humble prayer and self-denial. God resists the proud, but gives grace to and revives the spirit of the humble (Isaiah 57:15, James 4:6). "Therefore submit to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you. Draw near to God and He will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners; and purify your hearts, you double-minded." James 4:7-8

Victory is found in surrendering to God and involves giving up what we want in exchange for what God wants for us.  We have a generous God who gave us His Son and is more willing to "give good things to those who ask Him" than we are to give good things to our own children. (Romans 8:32, Matthew 7:11). If we're willing, or even simply willing to be willing to surrender to God's will, He will give us His Holy Spirit so that He can live in us (Luke 11:13, John 14:23). "It is God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure." Philippians 2:13